“Narcissism falls along the axis of what psychologists call personality disorders, one of a group that includes antisocial, dependent, histrionic, avoidant and borderline personalities. But by most measures, narcissism is one of the worst, if only because the narcissists themselves are so clueless.” – Jeffrey Kluger
There have been numerous books and articles written about whether leadership is an innate characteristic or something which can be learned over time. I used to believe the former to be true; I now believe leadership is an acquired trait. We are born into this world with no knowledge or pre-conceived notions about anything. Everything is taught to us from the day we enter the world. Therefore, I believe anyone can be a good leader if they learn from the right mentors. Unfortunately, we have the wrong mentors occupying our thrones.
The problem with leadership these days, or lack thereof, is the disease of narcissism. For those who don’t know narcissistic symptoms include an excessive need for admiration, disregard for others’ feelings, an inability to handle any criticism, and a sense of entitlement. It is an epidemic of immense proportions. This narcissistic plague is ravaging our kingdoms to a degree parallel to The Black Death. Well, that may be a little extreme but you get the point. This narcissistic reign, however, is threatening the very existence of our valiant knights, our leaders.
We hear these so-called leaders preach about the servitude of their people when the truth is all they are referring to is the servitude of their ego. Under narcissistic rule, servitude is about the peasants freely serving their king. Remunerations are plenty for those who caress the ego of the narcissistic king. Those that see them for what they really are, and refuse to accept this narcissistic tyranny, are forever banished to the dungeons. My guess is all the remaining leaders and mentors are hidden deep in these dungeons.
The narcissistic ruler wields their power heedlessly while hiding behind their curtain of insecurities. Real leaders expose those insecurities; therefore, what better place to have leaders serve out their time than the dungeons. The old adage declares, “Heavy is the head that wears the crown.” While this adage is true. In my opinion, however, heavier is the head of the narcissistic king. Leaders don’t need to rule their kingdoms; they empower their people to lead their respective organizations and governments. Real leaders inspire others to be a greater version of themselves.
If you take care of your people, your people will take care of you and their kingdom. Real leaders work for their people. It is really quite simple. Knights still exist in these fallen kingdoms. Unfortunately, they have all been banished deep into the dungeons, bound by those narcissistic chains of oppression. This narcissistic reign of terror is threatening our knights’ existence. It has to be stopped. Unchain these noble champions of righteousness and enable them to abolish these thrones of narcissistic rule and right our fallen kingdoms.