“I don’t let anyone’s insecurities, emotions, or opinions bother me. I know that if I am happy, that’s all that matters to me.” – Demi Lovato
Once again, my 8-year-old son never ceases to amaze me and teach ME invaluable life lessons. My son has been creating YouTube videos for about a year now. This kid has never let a bad comment or “thumbs down” affect his desire to create and upload more content. Good, bad, indifferent, he just keeps going, doing what he is passionate about regardless of the naysayers. I’m so proud of him; a truly “amazing” kid to say the least. He chooses to ignore the critics and continue down HIS path. He doesn’t let those contagious, negative naysayers affect his passion. Compelling lesson to be learned from his unwavering desire.
Naysayers, aka “Dream Killers,” are those people that always tell you that your goals are unreasonable, stupid, impossible to achieve, whether directly or indirectly. Naysayers deliberately infect their virus into people. They unleash their virus on the lofty goals and dreams of those people around them. They don’t want to be alone and unsuccessful in the world, so they attempt to keep others down through negative comments, thumbs down, or other attempts to sabotage OUR goals and dreams. They intentionally spread their virus to kill the goals and aspirations of others. Look around you, I guarantee you will be able to point out those effing dream killers in your life.
Why do they have that kind of influence over your life? Why are they even in your life? Are they close friends? If they are, take a comparative look at your lives. I bet your lives are pretty similar; similar jobs, relationship problems, attitudes, etc. YOU surround yourself with like-minded people. Hell, maybe you are the “naysayer” and just don’t realize that YOU are the problem. Naysayers just want to spread their debilitating disease of insecurity to anyone with desire, drive, and passion. Just because you are a naysayer doesn’t mean you can’t rid yourself of the virus. STOP spreading your disease ASSHOLE.
Pursue your passions with conviction. Don’t let those assholes infect you with their debilitating virus. Surround yourself with positive, supportive people. The key to avoiding this disease is recognizing, and avoiding, the carriers of the virus. To stay precisely where you are in life, by all means, listen to them so you can assure yourself a sad, mediocre life, at best. Failure is nothing to fear; embrace failure as something positive, because it is something positive. Most successful people failed many, many times before they finally achieved success. In fact, most successful people continue to fail daily, monthly, and annually. The difference is they don’t let failure stop them.
Insecurity is a curious virus. It can be immediately removed from your body with a change in mindset, or if left untreated it can spread and ruin your life, and the lives of those around you too. The curious part is that it’s entirely up to YOU whether it infects you or not. You control what enters your mind. Many people, however, openly accept the virus into their minds. Maybe it’s easier to bitch, whine, and complain about your life than it is to put forth the effort to change your life. Those insecurities are deeply embedded through continued exposure to other carriers of the virus. Remove those carriers from your life, change your mindset and watch what happens.
You must remove naysayers from your life and surround yourself with positive, supportive people. That may mean pushing friends and family members aside, not necessarily out of your life, but out of your mind. Much like what my son did with his naysayers. He didn’t give them the power to control his mind. They bring no value to your life, other than motivation to prove those assholes wrong. Don’t let them say your too old, too young, not strong enough, not smart enough, not talented enough, and so on. These people don’t understand the power of determination. Don’t let their debilitating disease of insecurity infect your life.